Continuing bonds theory proposes that healthy adaptation to grief does not require "detaching" from the deceased but transforming the relationship: from physical presence to meaningful inner presence. Talking to the deceased, keeping linking objects, visiting shared places can be adaptive strategies, not signs of pathology.
Concept origin
Klass, Silverman, and Nickman (1996) challenged in "Continuing Bonds" the dominant paradigm of "working through grief to detach." Subsequent research confirmed that continuing bonds are the norm in human grief and that their quality — not mere presence — predicts adjustment.
Therapeutic approach
Continuing bonds therapy includes letters to the deceased, personally meaningful connection rituals, use of linking objects, and "empty chairs" in Gestalt therapy. The goal is to transform the bond from painful to a source of strength and meaning.
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