No outsider can answer this for you.
You have been carrying the same question for weeks — maybe months: should I end my relationship? And the worst part is not having no answer: it is feeling that even asking for data is a betrayal. It is not. Relationship research shows something uncomfortable and liberating at once: sustained doubt is information, not failure. Most people are not waiting for the signal — they are waiting for permission. Permission does not come from outside: it is built by looking at patterns, not spikes. Here is the full map: what you do when something is not working (exit, voice, loyalty or neglect), which signals actually weigh and which ones are noise, and how to move forward with respect for both of you, whatever you decide.
Should I end my relationship? A question no outsider can answer for you
- When a relationship stops working, research identifies four responses — the EVLN model by Rusbult, Johnson and Morrow (1986): exit (leaving), voice (talking and actively working on the problem), loyalty (waiting passively) and neglect (letting it rot). The operational question is not "should I leave?": it is am I in voice, or have I already moved to neglect?. If you have spent months without trying to talk about the problem — or trying without anything changing — that pattern weighs more than any spike of affection. DOI: 10.1177/001872678603900103
- No outsider can decide for you — and this has hard backing: Joel, Eastwick and Finkel (2017) applied machine learning to more than 11,000 couples looking for variables that predicted romantic desire, and even the best algorithm could not do it from individual variables. Your family does not know, your friends do not know, a quiz does not know: the answer is built by looking at the patterns of YOUR relationship — signals sustained over months, not spikes of one good or bad night. DOI: 10.1177/0956797617714580
- There is one line that is never negotiated: if there is violence in the relationship — physical, psychological, economic or sexual — the priority is not saving the bond but your safety. In the US and Canada, 988 connects with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline; domestic violence hotlines are available 24/7, and the help lines at the end of every piece are too.