Emotional dependency after breakup is the psychological pattern by which a person experiences an extreme need for the ex-partner to regulate their emotional state, identity, and well-being. It manifests in obsession, constant search for contact, sense of not being able to function without the other person.
Concept origin
Castello J. (2005). Dependencia emocional: características y tratamiento. Editorial Alianza. · Hirschberger G. (2018). Transforming trauma into resilience. Self-regulation practices for emotional well-being. Journal of Happiness Studies, 19(5), 1367-1385. doi:10.1007/s10902-017-9889-3
How it manifests
- ▸ Obsession with ex-partner (check social networks, wait for messages)
- ▸ Feeling of emptiness without the other person
- ▸ Inability to make own decisions
Therapeutic approach
CBT works on dependency schemas and belief restructuring about own value. CFT (Gilbert) works on the internal soothing/safety system. Schema therapy addresses the activated "vulnerable child" mode.
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